About Jaymes
Honest, grounded coaching for men who want more than coping.
Most men don't come looking for coaching because life is going well. They arrive because something isn't working anymore.
Why men reach out
Something isn't working anymore
Sometimes it's anxiety. Sometimes it's addiction. Sometimes a relationship is breaking down. Sometimes it's the quiet feeling that, despite everything they've achieved, they're still carrying something they can't quite explain.
My name is Jaymes, and I work with men who want more than coping — men who want to understand themselves, make sense of their experiences, and build a life that feels more connected, purposeful and authentic.
Professional background
Over 15 years across recovery, support and community services
For over 15 years I have worked across recovery, support and community services, helping people navigate addiction, trauma, mental health challenges, homelessness, offending behaviour, family breakdown and major life transitions.
My professional experience includes addiction recovery services, prison settings, Housing First projects, homelessness services and community-based support programmes. I have facilitated groups, delivered one-to-one support, and worked alongside people through some of the most challenging periods of their lives.
I hold a Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Studies and have completed training in trauma-informed practice, safeguarding, motivational interviewing and recovery-focused approaches. My work is informed by both professional practice and a clear understanding of how change happens in the real world.
Lived experience
Where my understanding comes from
Alongside my professional experience, I also bring lived experience. I have known addiction and the impact of trauma firsthand, and recovery has been a significant part of my own journey.
That experience taught me that lasting change rarely comes from willpower alone. It comes from understanding ourselves, developing awareness, building healthier relationships and learning new ways of responding to life's challenges.
My experiences help me relate to many of the men I work with, but coaching is never about my story. It is about yours.
Who I work with
The men who find their way here
The men I work with come from all walks of life:
- Men rebuilding after addiction
- Men struggling with confidence, self-worth or identity
- Men navigating stress, anxiety or burnout
- Men working through relationship challenges
- Fathers trying to become the man they want their children to remember
- Men who simply know they want something to change but don't yet know where to begin
My role isn't to tell you who you should be. It is to help you understand who you already are beneath the stress, survival patterns, self-doubt and expectations that have built up over time.
My approach
Honesty, curiosity, accountability, compassion
Everything I offer is grounded in honesty, curiosity, accountability and compassion. Through one-to-one coaching, the Return To You programme, Companion and practical tools for reflection and growth, I help men develop greater self-awareness, emotional resilience, confidence, direction and connection.
I believe meaningful change happens when we stop fighting ourselves and start understanding ourselves. If you're ready to begin that work, I'd be honoured to walk alongside you.
Professional experience
At a glance
- Over 15 years supporting people through recovery, change and personal growth
- Experience within addiction recovery services
- Experience in prison and criminal justice environments
- Housing First and homelessness support experience
- Group facilitation and one-to-one support
- Trauma-informed approach
- Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Studies
- Safeguarding training
- Motivational Interviewing training
- Recovery-focused practice experience
Areas I commonly support
Where the work tends to land
- Addiction recovery
- Trauma recovery
- Confidence and self-worth
- Relationships
- Fatherhood
- Identity and purpose
- Emotional wellbeing
- Life transitions
- Personal growth
- Recovery from survival patterns
How I work
No judgement. No fixing. No pretending.
Just honest conversations, practical tools, thoughtful challenge and a steady commitment to helping you move towards the life you want to build.
Experience you can trust
Fifteen years walking alongside men in the rooms most people never enter.
- Worked with men in prisons
- Worked with men in recovery
- Worked with men facing homelessness
- Worked with men rebuilding relationships
- Worked with men rebuilding their lives
What you can expect
Honesty about what this is — and what it isn't.
What coaching here is
The work itself
- A confidential one-to-one space for the things you don't say out loud.
- Trauma-informed, body-aware, paced for nervous-system safety.
- Practical — built around the change you actually want.
- Held by years of work alongside men in addiction, prison, homelessness and recovery.
What it isn't
The lines I won't blur
- Not therapy or counselling, and not a substitute for clinical care.
- Not legal advice, and not representation in court.
- Not a quick fix, a guru, or a programme that promises a fixed outcome.
- Not a place where you'll be judged, shamed, or sold something you don't need.
Safeguarding
Trained in safeguarding for vulnerable adults. Clear boundaries, escalation routes, and the honesty to say when coaching isn't the right room. Read the safeguarding statement →
Privacy
What you bring stays in the room. Notes are minimal, encrypted, and used only to support the work. Privacy policy →
Experience
Years in prisons, recovery rooms, Housing First and trauma-informed practice — not theory. Why men work with me →
Transparent pricing. No hidden fees, no upsells. Every option, what it includes and what it costs, is published.
See pricing →Take the next quiet step.
A free, 20-minute discovery call. No script. No pressure. Just a chance to feel whether this work is the right fit for you.
Meet me before you decide · Free
The room is the simplest way in.
If you'd rather feel how I work than read about it, the weekly Open Men's Room is open to anyone.