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Long-form articles on trauma, addiction, recovery and men's mental health, written from lived and professional experience, grounded in Canterbury and East Kent.
Featured
Childhood trauma · 13 min read
Why something from years ago can still shape trust, shame, anger and intimacy today, and why freezing, not telling anyone, and not calling it abuse are all common, not weakness.
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61 articles
Late-night reading
Writing for the kind of nights where you've typed something into a search bar you couldn't say out loud.
10 articles
Childhood trauma
Long-form pieces on what happened, or didn't happen, when you were young.
26 articles
Men's mental health
Plain-language writing on what men actually carry, and what tends to help.
14 articles
Relationships & attachment
On attachment, separation, fatherhood, and the patterns we learned long before we chose them.
13 articles
Addiction & recovery
On drinking, porn, work, gambling and the slow, honest road back.
12 articles
Family court support
Plain-language writing for fathers navigating family court. Not legal advice.
8 articles
Local guides
Honest, grounded guides for men in specific places across East Kent.
Recent
Addiction & recovery · 10 min read
Cravings are rarely about the substance. They're a nervous system asking for relief it already knows how to get. How to read them, and what to do in the twenty minutes that matter.
Addiction & recovery · 11 min read
Getting sober solves the emergency. It doesn't answer the harder question of what your life is now for. An honest look at the flat, strange months after stopping.
Family court support · 10 min read
Whether it's been months or years, reconnecting with your children isn't about explaining yourself. It's about becoming reliable. A trauma-informed guide for fathers.
Family court support · 11 min read
Co-parenting with someone you're no longer with asks you to stay regulated in the exact place you feel least safe. A trauma-informed look at what actually helps.
Childhood trauma · 9 min read
A direct guide for men on navigating adult boundaries with parents. Learn how to communicate needs without losing the relationship or your composure.
Men's mental health · 9 min read
When you finally stop working, the silence can be deafening. Exploring why holidays often trigger feelings of emptiness and what to do about the internal crash.
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Trauma-informed coach for men, working out of East Kent and online across the UK. Jaymes writes from a combination of lived experience and years of one-to-one work with men navigating childhood trauma, addiction recovery, fatherhood, separation and the long road back to themselves.
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