Childhood trauma · 9 min read
How Do I Set Boundaries With My Parents?
A direct guide for men on navigating adult boundaries with parents. Learn how to communicate needs without losing the relationship or your composure.
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Long-form articles on trauma, addiction, recovery and men's mental health, written from lived and professional experience, grounded in Canterbury and East Kent.
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Writing for the kind of nights where you've typed something into a search bar you couldn't say out loud.
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Childhood trauma
Long-form pieces on what happened, or didn't happen, when you were young.
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Men's mental health
Plain-language writing on what men actually carry, and what tends to help.
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On attachment, separation, fatherhood, and the patterns we learned long before we chose them.
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Plain-language writing for fathers navigating family court. Not legal advice.
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Men's mental health · 9 min read
Why Do I Feel Empty on Holiday?
When you finally stop working, the silence can be deafening. Exploring why holidays often trigger feelings of emptiness and what to do about the internal crash.
Late-night reading · 9 min read
How Do I Stop Watching the News?
Struggling to turn off the news? Explore why your brain stays hooked on the cycle and how to regain your focus without looking away from reality.
Childhood trauma · 9 min read
Why Do I Miss My Childhood?
Understanding the weight of nostalgia. Why men in mid-life long for the past and how to process the grief of the quiet, unfelt parts of childhood.
Relationships & attachment · 9 min read
How Do I Talk to My Wife About My Mental Health?
Practical guidance for men on how to communicate mental health struggles to their partners without triggering a crisis or feeling like a burden.
Men's mental health · 9 min read
Why Do I Feel Like a Fraud at Work?
Struggling with the feeling that you're a fraud at work? Explore why senior men experience imposter syndrome and how to handle the pressure of performance.
Men's mental health · 9 min read
How Do I Know If I'm Depressed or Just Tired?
A straightforward look at the difference between physical exhaustion and clinical depression in men. Learn when your fatigue is a deeper mental health issue.
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Jaymes Cadby
Trauma-informed coach for men, working out of East Kent and online across the UK. Jaymes writes from a combination of lived experience and years of one-to-one work with men navigating childhood trauma, addiction recovery, fatherhood, separation and the long road back to themselves.
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