The author
Jaymes Cadby
Trauma-informed coach for men, working from East Kent and online across the UK. This page is the honest version of who I am, what I've come through, and why I do this work.
The short version
What I do, in plain language
I work one-to-one with men who are carrying things they've never had words for. Childhood trauma. Addiction and recovery. The slow grind after a separation. The quiet conviction that something inside is wrong with them. The work is paced, private, and grown-up. No worksheets. No scripts. No clinical jargon.
Most of the men I work with are functioning on the outside, exhausted on the inside. They've tried to think their way out of it, drink it away, outwork it. The work I do starts where that stops, with the body, the nervous system, the parts of you that learned to survive long before they learned to live.
Lived experience
Why this work, for me
I'm not writing about this from a textbook. The reason this work exists is that I spent a long time being one of the men I now sit across from. I know what it is to functionally hold a life together while quietly coming apart. I know the late nights, the relapses, the rooms you walk into hoping no one will see you, the rooms you walk out of hoping you can hold it for one more week.
I came through it slowly, with help I had to learn how to accept. That experience is not a credential, but it is the reason nothing a man tells me will surprise me, shock me, or tip me out of the chair.
Approach
How I work
The work is trauma-informed in the proper sense, which means it goes at the pace of your nervous system, not at the pace of a content plan. You will not be asked to relive your worst moments to prove anything. You will not be handed a five-step framework on day one. We move at the speed of trust.
Sessions are private, confidential, and held with care. I work both in person and online, with men across the UK. Where another professional, such as a GP, therapist, or psychiatrist, is already involved, I work alongside them rather than instead of them.
Boundaries
What I'm not
I'm not a therapist, a psychiatrist, or a crisis service. If you are in immediate danger, the right call is 999, the Samaritans on 116 123, or your GP. Coaching is not a replacement for clinical care, and I'll always say so when that is what's needed.
I'm also not a guru. There is no programme that fixes a man. There is only a steady, honest relationship in which the work can happen, at your pace, on your terms.
Take the next quiet step.
A free, 20-minute discovery call. No script. No pressure. Just a chance to feel whether this work is the right fit for you.