Service
Anger & self-worth coaching
For men whose anger has cost them too much, and whose sense of self has quietly emptied out.
Why this work
What this is, in plain language
Most men's anger isn't really anger. It's grief that learned to wear armour. Shame that learned to attack. Fear that learned to lash out before it could be seen. The work isn't about teaching you to suppress it, the world has plenty of suppressed men. It's about meeting what's underneath it, and giving you back a sense of self that doesn't run on adrenaline and self-loathing.
How it works
What the work actually looks like
We work in confidence, one-to-one. We don't pathologise the anger, we listen to what it's been carrying. As that part of you starts to be heard, it tends to settle, often surprisingly quickly. Alongside it, we rebuild a quieter, steadier self-worth that isn't dependent on performance or other people's approval.
Who it's for
This work is for
- Men whose anger has hurt people they love
- Men whose self-worth depends on what they produce
- Men who feel nothing they do is ever quite enough
- Men who can be hard, controlled, decisive at work and rage at home
- Men who are tired of being the version of themselves they've had to be
What changes
What tends to change
- Anger that becomes information rather than damage
- A sense of worth that doesn't collapse the moment you stop achieving
- Less self-attack, more self-respect
- Closer relationships with the people who've borne the cost
- A man you actually recognise when you look in the mirror
Frequently asked
Common questions
Is this anger management?
No. Anger management teaches you to hold the lid on. This work goes underneath the lid to what the anger is actually about, which is usually the thing that quietens it.
What if I've already done damage with my anger?
Most of the men I work with have. The work isn't about denying that. It's about taking honest responsibility for it and becoming the man who doesn't do it again.
Will my partner see a difference?
Usually yes, often within weeks. The shift tends to be visible at home before it's fully visible to you.
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Online across the UK, in-person in and around Canterbury. Find your area below, or see all locations.
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Where the work continues
Included with coaching
The Coaching Portal
Every client gets access to the Coaching Portal, a private space for session prep, reflections, progress and resources between our meetings.
What you can expect
Honesty about what this is — and what it isn't.
What coaching here is
The work itself
- A confidential one-to-one space for the things you don't say out loud.
- Trauma-informed, body-aware, paced for nervous-system safety.
- Practical — built around the change you actually want.
- Held by years of work alongside men in addiction, prison, homelessness and recovery.
What it isn't
The lines I won't blur
- Not therapy or counselling, and not a substitute for clinical care.
- Not legal advice, and not representation in court.
- Not a quick fix, a guru, or a programme that promises a fixed outcome.
- Not a place where you'll be judged, shamed, or sold something you don't need.
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Jaymes Cadby
Trauma-informed coach for men, working out of East Kent and online across the UK. Jaymes writes from a combination of lived experience and years of one-to-one work with men navigating childhood trauma, addiction recovery, fatherhood, separation and the long road back to themselves.
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