Service
Childhood trauma coaching
For the man whose childhood is still quietly running his adult life.
Why this work
What this is, in plain language
A lot of men don't think they had 'trauma'. They had a difficult father. A mother who was unwell. A house that was loud or cold or unpredictable. A school that wasn't safe. They tell themselves it wasn't that bad, other people had it worse, they should be over it. The body disagrees. It's still on alert decades later.
How it works
What the work actually looks like
We work slowly. We don't drag you back through the worst of it. We give the small boy who lived through it the steady, attuned adult he never had, and we let your nervous system learn, in real time, that this time is different. Sessions are weekly or fortnightly, online or in-person.
Who it's for
This work is for
- Men whose parents were unreliable, frightening, or just emotionally unavailable
- Men who learned early that needing things made them weak
- Men carrying physical, emotional or sexual abuse they've rarely spoken about
- Men whose adult relationships keep hitting the same wall
- Men ready to stop blaming themselves for what was done to them
What changes
What tends to change
- An end to the quiet conviction that you are the problem
- A nervous system that doesn't have to fight every Tuesday
- Adult relationships that don't replay the same patterns
- Anger that lands as grief instead of as damage
- A grown-up relationship with the boy you used to be
Frequently asked
Common questions
What if I don't remember much of my childhood?
That's common. The body remembers what the mind has filed away. We don't need a full timeline. We work with what's alive now, and what shows up as we go.
Is this the same as inner child work?
It overlaps. The language of an 'inner child' is useful for some men and not for others. The actual work is the same: meeting the parts of you that froze in time and giving them what they needed and didn't get.
Will it make things worse before it gets better?
Done carelessly, this kind of work can re-traumatise. Done properly, paced to what you can hold, it doesn't. That pacing is the entire job.
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Where I work
Local pages
Online across the UK, in-person in and around Canterbury. Find your area below, or see all locations.
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Between sessions
Where the work continues
Included with coaching
The Coaching Portal
Every client gets access to the Coaching Portal, a private space for session prep, reflections, progress and resources between our meetings.
What you can expect
Honesty about what this is — and what it isn't.
What coaching here is
The work itself
- A confidential one-to-one space for the things you don't say out loud.
- Trauma-informed, body-aware, paced for nervous-system safety.
- Practical — built around the change you actually want.
- Held by years of work alongside men in addiction, prison, homelessness and recovery.
What it isn't
The lines I won't blur
- Not therapy or counselling, and not a substitute for clinical care.
- Not legal advice, and not representation in court.
- Not a quick fix, a guru, or a programme that promises a fixed outcome.
- Not a place where you'll be judged, shamed, or sold something you don't need.
Transparent pricing. No hidden fees, no upsells. Every option, what it includes and what it costs, is published.
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Jaymes Cadby
Trauma-informed coach for men, working out of East Kent and online across the UK. Jaymes writes from a combination of lived experience and years of one-to-one work with men navigating childhood trauma, addiction recovery, fatherhood, separation and the long road back to themselves.
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