Service
Fatherhood & separation coaching
For fathers carrying separation, co-parenting, family court, or the quiet pain of being a dad without a map.
Why this work
What this is, in plain language
Being a father in the middle of a separation is one of the loneliest jobs a man can do. You're meant to keep working, keep co-parenting, keep showing up, often while losing access to your children, your home, your sense of who you are. This work is for the men who are doing all of that and slowly being ground down by it.
How it works
What the work actually looks like
We work confidentially, one-to-one, over a sustained period. The work is half practical, half deep, helping you stay regulated through the worst weeks, and slowly putting back together the parts of you that have come apart. Sessions can flex around contact weekends and court dates.
Who it's for
This work is for
- Separated and divorced fathers navigating access and contact
- Dads going through family court
- Co-parents trying to stay steady inside a hostile dynamic
- Fathers whose own dads weren't there, doing it differently with their kids
- New dads who didn't expect this to be this hard
What changes
What tends to change
- A nervous system that can hold a difficult message without collapsing
- A clearer head when decisions about your children have to be made
- Less reactivity, more steadiness, in the hardest conversations
- A version of fatherhood that you can be proud of
- Repair, where repair is possible, with your children and yourself
Frequently asked
Common questions
Do you work with men in family court?
Yes. I'm not a legal advisor and won't pretend to be, but I work with a lot of men going through court, and the steadiness this work builds is exactly what those rooms ask of you.
Will you take my side against my ex?
No. The work isn't a tribunal. My job is to help you stay the kind of man, and the kind of father, you actually want to be, even when the situation around you is hostile.
What if I only see my children some of the time?
A lot of the men I work with are in exactly that position. The work is about being the steadiest dad you can be in the time you do have, and surviving the time you don't.
Where I work
Local pages
Online across the UK, in-person in and around Canterbury. Find your area below, or see all locations.
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Newsletter
Letters from the work
Occasional, honest writing on trauma, fatherhood and recovery. No funnels, no sales sequences. One email when there is something worth saying.
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Between sessions
Where the work continues
Included with coaching
The Coaching Portal
Every client gets access to the Coaching Portal, a private space for session prep, reflections, progress and resources between our meetings.
What you can expect
Honesty about what this is — and what it isn't.
What coaching here is
The work itself
- A confidential one-to-one space for the things you don't say out loud.
- Trauma-informed, body-aware, paced for nervous-system safety.
- Practical — built around the change you actually want.
- Held by years of work alongside men in addiction, prison, homelessness and recovery.
What it isn't
The lines I won't blur
- Not therapy or counselling, and not a substitute for clinical care.
- Not legal advice, and not representation in court.
- Not a quick fix, a guru, or a programme that promises a fixed outcome.
- Not a place where you'll be judged, shamed, or sold something you don't need.
Transparent pricing. No hidden fees, no upsells. Every option, what it includes and what it costs, is published.
See pricing →About the author
Jaymes Cadby
Trauma-informed coach for men, working out of East Kent and online across the UK. Jaymes writes from a combination of lived experience and years of one-to-one work with men navigating childhood trauma, addiction recovery, fatherhood, separation and the long road back to themselves.
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