Service
Relationship coach for men UK
Coaching for men whose relationships need real work, anywhere in the UK.
Why this work
What this is, in plain language
Most men come to relationship work too late — after the affair, after the silence, after she's already half out the door. This page is for men anywhere in the UK who want to do it earlier, or do it now, before it's terminal.
How it works
What the work actually looks like
Online one-to-one work focused on you, not couples therapy. We look at attachment, communication, repair, intimacy, and the parts of you that have been doing damage you didn't quite want to see.
Who it's for
This work is for
- Men in a marriage or partnership that's quietly drifting
- Men who have been told they're emotionally absent
- Men recovering from an affair (theirs or hers)
- Men who want to do their part of the work without waiting for her
What changes
What tends to change
- A relationship that feels alive again
- An honest accounting of your part
- Skills for repair, intimacy and conflict that you didn't have before
Frequently asked
Common questions
Is this couples therapy?
No. This is one-to-one work with you. Couples therapy is a different modality and I can suggest practitioners if it's what you need.
Where I work
Local pages
Online across the UK, in-person in and around Canterbury. Find your area below, or see all locations.
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Newsletter
Letters from the work
Occasional, honest writing on trauma, fatherhood and recovery. No funnels, no sales sequences. One email when there is something worth saying.
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Between sessions
Where the work continues
Included with coaching
The Coaching Portal
Every client gets access to the Coaching Portal, a private space for session prep, reflections, progress and resources between our meetings.
What you can expect
Honesty about what this is — and what it isn't.
What coaching here is
The work itself
- A confidential one-to-one space for the things you don't say out loud.
- Trauma-informed, body-aware, paced for nervous-system safety.
- Practical — built around the change you actually want.
- Held by years of work alongside men in addiction, prison, homelessness and recovery.
What it isn't
The lines I won't blur
- Not therapy or counselling, and not a substitute for clinical care.
- Not legal advice, and not representation in court.
- Not a quick fix, a guru, or a programme that promises a fixed outcome.
- Not a place where you'll be judged, shamed, or sold something you don't need.
Transparent pricing. No hidden fees, no upsells. Every option, what it includes and what it costs, is published.
See pricing →About the author
Jaymes Cadby
Trauma-informed coach for men, working out of East Kent and online across the UK. Jaymes writes from a combination of lived experience and years of one-to-one work with men navigating childhood trauma, addiction recovery, fatherhood, separation and the long road back to themselves.
Take the next quiet step.
A free, 20-minute discovery call. No script. No pressure. Just a chance to feel whether this work is the right fit for you.